Of Great Sex, Of Love

Sex has been described as act of worship by many ancient cultures, not least of all in the kama sutra. It is the joining of two people in the expression of the basest of emotions, love. It is meant to be enjoyed, to be relaxing, to be unifying. Sadly, research has shown that almost none of us ever have good sex, especially those in long term relationshiops.

Do you want to ever enjoy sex? Read on.

I had trouble convincing Valedon that this post is fit for publication but in the end I succeeded because he, like me, beleives that good sex is good for humanity.Having overtaken sport as the number one pass-time activity in many nations, more people are having sex than ever before. This is good.

The problem is that almost no one is having good sex, this is bad.The main problem is that our sex has too many goal-posts, it’s like a performance. Think about it, when having sex most people are thinkin of ensuring the other partner( in most cases women) get to orgasm, doing what is decent/acceptable to the partner and many other such things. Its like you’re reading from a script. This is bad sex.

Eliminate the goal-posts, just have sex-enjoy it, savour it. Its good that both of you get to orgasm but for sex to be fun you should not have to strive to achieve anything- let it be random good old sex!

Let’s tackle the issue of orgasm. Obviously, orgasm for men isn’t a problem. Its getting women to orgasm that is killing most of our sex lives. So here goes, my two cents worth of advice. Women can significantly increase their chances of reaching orgasm, and ultimately enjoying sex, by an old age trick, the oldest trick in the sex book. Masturbation. If you think masturbation is wrong the you are wrong!

Women should learn how their body responds, their most sensitive parts and how they like to be treated. To know this, a woman should try and bring herself to orgasm via masturbation. This will give her all the knowledge she needs about her sexual preferences.
Once armed with this knowledge, the woman should then share it with her partner and describe the things that the partner should do to give her the most pleasure. During the actual act of sex, she could then guide her partner to help her have fun.

Research has shown that masturbation is an excellent way of consolidating the bond between partners and of improving their sex life. Both men and women should strive to understand their sexual preferences via masturbation and then share this info with their partners. This will improve the quality of their sex.

However, an even better way to do things is by masturbating in front of your partner and then showing him/her how to masturbate you. It works! Trust me, I tried it! It is not only fun but you will be amazed at just how much more you love and trust your partner afterwards.

Sex is about much more than intercourse. Great sex is based on the principle of variety. With your newfound knowledge on your sexual preferences (i.e how and what turns you on) you have completed step 1 towards good sex. The next step is applying this knowledge to introduce or expand variety in your sex life.

Sexual variety comes in many flavours. Try oral sex, anal sex, as many positions as possible, change the location( try the shower, kithcen table, garden etc), try kissing all over, nibling, give hickies; the list is endless. It all depends on your creativity, and if your not creative try the internet, you’ll find al sorts of kinky stuff to try out. The golden rule, however, is to thoroughly discuss everything with your partner before you go ahead and try it.

Surprise is also a great sex tool. Do something unexpected- it’ll be worth every minute of planning for it! This is open only upto the limits of your creativity. For example, my best friend surprised her boyfriend by demanding sex in an elevator. Despite the disapproving look of one surprised lift-user, the boyfriend proposed a week later. I had the best sex of my two-year relationship when I talked my girlfriend into having sex in a clothing shop changing rom, it was great! If you can think of it, go ahead-try it!

Lastly, let sex be fun. Joke about it, tease each other, laugh-that’s the only way to ensure great sex.

Good sex has been known to heal terminal illnesses, to relieve depression and stress, to relax minds. So why don’t you have great sex, today? Its good for you, its good for all of us.

Do not keep information on how to have great sex to yourself, share it. You’ll be helping build a better society. Did you know that if your boss had had great sex he wouldn’t have bothered you so much? Share your info, or at least refer him/her to this post.

I pray that all of you have great sex tonight. If you have questions, comments,isights, insults or anything else, leave a comment. I’ll be happy to respond to it. But do remember that……

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DISCLAIMER: My thoughts, values and beleifs are my own. It is my constitutional right to have them. However, the thoughts, values and beleifs depicted here have nothing against and do not intend to discriminate against lesbians, bisexuals, transgenders, or even ‘straight’ people.

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Can anyone tell us/me how to best make love to a woman to ensure maximum pleasure for her, or quick orgasm?